Do you ever hear voices inside that say:  “You’re not doing this right.”

Or:

“You failed at that. You’re a failure.”

These voices are from the mouth of shame. They are shaming statements. And when you say them to yourself, you are shaming yourself. Ouch.

Inner shaming is a technique your mind developed for you, to help you hide.

When you’re head is under the blanket, and you get to believe “I’m not good enough” then you really don’t have to take responsibility for what you are being asked to do, as the Founder & CEO of your business vision.

That’s right. You don’t have to do what God has been asking you to do. You can just hide, in a multitude of ways, including:

  • under-charging
  • over-charging
  • gossipping about others
  • basking in indecision, never fully making a powerful choice
  • having silent expectations of others
  • too much action, and not enough dream time
  • too much dream time, and not enough action
  • poor diet
  • overworking
  • relying on yourself instead of your God

What would be possible for you, if you didn’t have to shame yourself about anything?

What if it was okay to be imperfect, and rather than wasting time making things worse with negative self-talk and hiding behaviors, you could just accept yourself fully, and keep going?

There’s no way you can be THE very best version of yourself at all times. And if you hold shaming over your head, you will never take the risks necessary to grow.

How would you ever grow, if you didn’t make mistakes?

Use your mistakes to help you  become more grounded; to deepen your relationship with yourself.  Learn to stalk your own reactions when you make mistakes, choosing to love yourself up, rather than talk yourself down. Get Grounded

You get to be imperfect.

It is time to accept yourself, and share yourself and your imperfections with others.

 Author Brene Brown said it well:  “Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.”

The laughter of sharing your business successes and “failures” with your best friends and mentors frees you up to learn and grow.

“Failures” are actually successes, because no one grows perfectly.  We have to make mistakes to gather data points.

The more you are willing to risk vulnerability—-the more you are willing to ride the tide of “I don’t actually know what God has in store for me,” and ride the ocean wave ANYWAY,  the more you will truly enjoy life, which is the whole point of why you are working so hard on your  vision in the first place.

Enjoy the ride, now. Mistakes, and question marks included.

Love Yourself at Every Turn.

xoxoxo

Heidi